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Valentine’s Day is in just a few days and I know it can be a tough time when you are apart from the one you love.

Remember to lean on family and friends. They love you.

Sometimes we don’t want to impose on those who are close to us.

But ask yourself, “if ______ needed me, would I be there and would I want to help ________?”

You know you would, and that’s how they feel about you too.

Maybe you don’t need to pour your feelings out to someone. But the holiday has you thinking about a past love….

You can still make the holiday a positive one by getting involved with it.

Give a small Valentine’s gift to someone, perhaps your mother or a niece or nephew, or a close friend…you get the picture.

Giving is actually a gift to ourselves. We feel good when we give to others. You can’t help but feel better when you make someone you love happy.

What about your ex?

Valentine’s is a great excuse to contact them as well.

If things are strained, it may be the perfect olive branch to get dialogue going with them again.

You could do something as simple as a text or phone call saying “Happy Valentine’s Day, I hope all is well with you.”

Or if relations have been improving and you think it would be welcome, a thoughtful gift given in person might really make them feel great (and you as well!) .

Maybe things are just not there yet for you and contacting them is out of the question right now?

Don’t be discouraged. Remember you don’t have to get them back in one day (although that would be great wouldn’t it?)

You can take small steps each day and each week, to get you closer to where you want to be.

Remember…

…you are loved by your friends and family…

…your breakup is not a reflection of you.

Let me say that again because it’s an
important point we miss too often…

…your breakup is not a reflection of you!

You are still the great person you were before you met this person and you always will be.

Things WILL get better. They always do.

I’m pulling for you. I truly hope you reunite with the one you love.

More than that, I hope you are happy and this time is a good one for you.

All the best,

Annalyn

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Please take a few moments to view this video from Dr. Wayne Dyer. I promise what you gain from it will far outweigh the few minutes it takes to view it. It’s a touching story that, on the surface, does not appear to relate to getting your ex back. However, there are life lessons that can be learned from this story and applied to all your relationships.

What a beautiful and touching story.

There are many lessons we can take from Teddy’s story. Maybe the most obvious lesson is that it is just too easy for us to have a narrow, and often negative, view of others.

It’s sad to say, but sometimes it’s just too easy to see faults in others and to notice their shortcomings. It’s pretty scary for me to think that my friends and loved ones can just as easily notice all my flaws as well!

As human’s, we’re built to notice these things rather easily. In fact, research has shown that we remember the negative much more easily and readily than we do the positive. Politicians have always known this, which is why their campaigns focus so heavily on mudslinging the opponent.

However, when we take the opposite stance the world literally comes alive for us in the most amazing way. By embracing the unique strength skills, talents, beauty, and wonder in all our close friends, relatives, and even aquantainces, we are often rewarded more than we ever could have imagined.

So what does all this have to do with getting back together with your ex?

Consider this….

After a relationship ends, our natural inclination is to worry that we are going to lose this relationship forever. Losing someone who you love so much is a natural fear.

And that’s a keyword to remember. Fear.

Because of fear, we do some crazy things! We beg and plead for a lover or spouse to stay with us. We say and do things we regret. We just aren’t ourselves because we’re so worried about losing someone.

Think of the teacher in Teddy’s story. Initially, she noticed so many things about Teddy that could be perceived as negative. Perhaps, she didn’t fear Teddy, but it’s safe to say she didn’t approach her relationship with him from a place of love at that time.

But she was a bright and sensitive woman. After hearing one comment by Teddy, she made a decision to change the way she approached teaching forever.

And that single decision changed both their lives forever.

Once she began showing genuine concern and love for Teddy, things changed for the better.

I’d be willing to bet 100 people could watch that video and come away with 100 different lessons.

For me, the main lesson is to approach your relationships from a place of love not fear.

If you read my email mini-course, the 10 Biggest Breakup Mistakes, you see 10 examples of behavior that comes from fear, not love. Begging, pleading, negotiating, making your ex jealous, and so on….. these are all examples of the way we act when we are afraid we are going to lose someone forever.

But we’ll get much farther in our relationships if we come from a place of love, not fear.

So show genuine care and concern for the special people in your life. Be forgiving and be caring towards your ex. Listen and truly try to understand where they are coming from, even if you disagree with them. Do something nice for your ex, with no expectations attached. You get the idea.

I promise you that you will drastically improve your chances of getting back together by acting on love, not fear.

To your success,

Annalyn

Get Your Ex Back Now

Do you want to get your ex back? Are you unsure how to win back their love? If so, don’t worry – you’re not alone.

When it comes to your relationship with your ex, are you afraid to
put yourself out there? Would you like to ask them out again, but
you just don’t want to risk the rejection?

If you are, I don’t blame you. It can be nerve wrecking and
sometimes it feels like the risks are just too high.

What if your ex doesn’t feel the same way you do?

What if your ex doesn’t respond?

But then again, what if your ex does feel the same way and has been
afraid to take the first step as well?

What if your ex *would* respond positively and both of you could
take the next step towards reuniting?

If you ask me, the risks are worth it. It’s worth giving it a try. You CAN get your ex back.

In order for that to happen, a few things must happen.

1. You must stop any mistakes that are actually hurting your chances to get back together with your ex.

2. You must change the dynamic of the relationship. Remember, your ex didn’t stop loving the traits and characteristics that initially attracted them to you. Your ex fell in love with you for who you are. Although your situation changed, your ex is still attracted to those characteristics you possess. You can win back their love after you change the dynamics of the relationship.

3. You must resolve the problems that led to your breakup in the first place. More than anything, you want to avoid a breakup cycle. Believe it or not, this is easier to accomplish than you might imagine.

But in order to get back together with your ex, action will need to take place. At some point, either you or your ex is going to have to accept the risk and *go for it*.

Take the next step to get your ex back now. Grab your copy of Win Back Love now.

Take care,
Annalyn

I just wanted to give special thanks to all our Mothers today.
I’m glad we get this chance today to pay tribute to all
our mothers and I truly hope we honor her
throughout the year as well.

A mother’s love is without measure. Her patience is
neverending.

Mothers love us even when they are stressed, overworked,
tired, or even sad.

They are our caretakers, our teachers, our friends,
our confidants, our biggest fans, our role models,
and so much more.

Abraham Lincoln said of his mother: “All that I am or
ever hope to be, I owe to my angel Mother.” I know
I am not alone when I say I share that same
sentiment for my own dear mother!

If you are a mother, let me be please wish you a
truly Happy Mother’s Day and I hope it is a fantastic
day for you.

In honor of our mother’s, I’ve created a Mother’s Day
Special Offer. Check it out now at Win Back Love .

All the best to you,

Annalyn

Wanna know what’s keeping you from getting back together with your ex?

Chances are it is one of the top 3 reasons couples do not get back together.

1. Fear. Fear of rejection. Fear of being hurt. Fear of what your ex will say. Fear of putting yourself out there “on the line.” Fear of the unknown — what COULD happen!

It’s enough to hinder you to the point of inaction.

But the fact remains, if you don’t “put yourself out there” sometimes, you won’t get anywhere. No risk, no reward.

Don’t be afraid. As long as you avoid the mistakes from the Biggest Breakup Mistakes series, only good things can happen!

2. Pride. This runs neck and neck with fear as a top reason couples are unable to get back together.

Let’s face it, at the end of a relationship, things are said and done which are often regrettable.

Our feelings are hurt. Our egos are damaged. And in order to recover and cope with the breakup, we cling to our pride.

Add to that our basic human desire to be “right.”

We desperately want to believe that we are in the right, and our ex is in the wrong.

It’s our way of telling ourselves that we are ok. There’s nothing wrong with this. We are ok and it’s good that we think well of ourselves during tough times like this.

But often our pride prevents us from moving int he right direction with our ex’s.

It prevents us from saying how we REALLY feel. Or it prevents us from really tackling the core reason why you broke up in the first place.

Frankly, we would be best served by humbling ourselves and opening ourselves up to our special someone. If your ex is indeed your true love, you should be able to demonstrate humility, let go of your pride and be completely open and honest.

If you are can overcome your pride, then chances are you can overlook past mistakes and forgive your ex. Or maybe it will give you the strength to ask for forgiveness yourself if it is needed. Or it will help you to tackle the real issues that are keeping you apart.

3. Inability to overcome obstacles.

Many times we allow an obstacle to get in the way of reconciling. It’s just too easy to say “oh well, I tried.” I know because I’ve done it!

But in the end, there’s a solution for every obstacle. That’s right, every one of them.

Despite what the gurus would have you believe, there are no solutions that work 100% of the time, simply because we all possess free will to do as we please. If anyone tells you otherwise, run (don’t walk) in the other direction!

That said, there are things we can do to overcome all obstacles. For every situation, there is a solution.

Let me say that again….

For every situation, there is a solution.

I have seen miracles in my own relationships, and now I have seen it play out successfully for thousands around the world who have learned the do’s and dont’s from this newsletter and Win Back Love.

Please give it a try now and see for yourself –

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All the best,
Annalyn

Here’s a thought for you before you break for Thanksgiving this weekend.

Too often in life we think of happiness as a destination.

We say things like:

“When I make this much money, then I’ll be happy.”

“When I live in this town, then I’ll be happy.”

“When my ex comes back to me, then I’ll be happy.”

“When _______ happens, then I’ll be happy.”

You could probably think of hundreds of variations of this same idea. The idea that we can be happy later, depending on a condition.

While all of those things may actually bring happiness, there is no need to wait. You can be
happy right now.

I realize you are going through a tough time right now. Going through a breakup is one of the hardest things we have to go through in our lives. The feelings we have don’t go away quickly, but rather, they can last for a considerable time, depending on the situation.

But that doesn’t mean you can’t find happiness. Instead of thinking of happiness as a destination, consider it as a resource.

Happiness can be felt from smiling to a stranger. Returning money you find on the street and giving it to it’s rightful owner will make you happy. So can taking your dog for a walk.

I’m sorry, I hope this doesn’t seem like I am trivializing happiness. I’m just trying to point out (as someone special to me recently pointed out to me), happiness is a resource and we can find it in many forms throughout our day.

And most often, it’s these small opportunities that present themselves throughout the day that, if we are paying attention, are good opportunities to find joy. When you’re going through a breakup, you can use all the joy you can find.

And speaking of joy, I wish you all the joy in the world this Thanksgiving, and I hope you have a absolutely wonderful weekend.

All the best,
Annalyn

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Reforming relationships with ex partners is a tricky process, so before you go any further take a moment to think to yourself about what went wrong the first time around, and why this time is going to be any different. It may well be that you are focusing on the positives in the relationship because of your needs, and that is causing you to forget the negatives. Or it may well be that you thought everything was great, but it wasn’t working so well for your ex-wife or ex-girlfriend. Either way you need to look at the relationship and work out what went wrong, and work out if it is something that you can fix. If you don’t do this then you are setting off down the same path to a break up once again.

Now there’s two possible situations that ended your relationship last time. Either you called it off or she did. The third option “the mutual decision” is a virtual non existent situation. One partner will always initiate the ‘break up talk’. It’s practically unheard of that two people at exactly the same instant switch from being happy with each other to wanting to end a relationship – unless they just found out they are twins separated at birth, and if that’s the case you probably shouldn’t be putting too much thought into getting back together! How you get back together is going to depend a lot on how you broke up.

If you were the one to call it off, then you are going to have to be very careful about the way you re-approach her. She was most likely very hurt after your relationship ended, so asking her to put herself in that position again is going to be difficult. A girl is going to translate your actions as “I thought I could do better, turns out I can’t, so I guess you’ll do”. That’s not going to work a lot of the time.

If you were the one that called it off, then getting things going again is going to involve some pride swallowing on your part. You need to admit that you were wrong to call it off in the first place. A good way of doing this is to say something along the lines of “You know, I really miss the (insert something she likes here) we used to do.” Depending on her response you have your opening for a new ‘first’ date.

On the other hand, if she was the one that called things off you need to approach things differently. There was something about you, or about the situation, that didn’t make her happy. All you need to do is figure out what that was and change it, and you are half way to winning her back. From there you need her to become aware of the changed situation, re-establish contact, show her how things will be different and then convince her that getting back together is the best thing for both of you.

You can get your ex-wife or ex-girlfriend back!

Get her back now and build a relationship with a bond that can never be broken. Check out Win Back Love: How To Get Back The Love Of Your Life, by Annalyn Caras.

From time to time we all think about the good old days with an ex-husband or ex-boyfriend, and how things could have turned out differently. In some situations, with a really great guy, it’s actually worth not just thinking about it, and actually getting out and doing something positive to make it happen.

First things first, if he is in a relationship let him be. If you go trying to sabotage his relationship you are just going to make yourself look selfish and manipulative. Guys don’t go for that at all, and it’s not a good start to a relationship. But if he is free then the following tips will surely help you to re-establish contact and win him back.

To begin with – don’t rush in. Take a little time to access what went wrong with the relationship the first time and what you need to do to make sure that doesn’t happen again. Be honest with yourself over what traits you have that you think he didn’t enjoy in the relationship. If they are things you are prepared to change then put a decent plan into place to modify them. Then let the new traits show through. You don’t need to ring him and tell him how you have reconstructed your personality – let your actions do the talking.

Again – don’t rush in. Take a little bit of personal time and get comfortable with yourself again. Be self assured and it will shine through in everything that you do. Confidence and positivity are attractions. Be positive and tell yourself that you are worthy of him. Don’t be thinking about landing your dream guy – flip that around – you are the dream girl and you are nice enough to be giving HIM a second chance with YOU.

Now part of this is to be looking your best so you feel great about yourself. When you are in the right mindspace, it’s time to re-establish contact with your ex-husband or ex-boyfriend. Depending on the types of places you went together there are two ways of doing this.

The first method is the ‘accidental meeting’. You should know enough about him to know the sorts of places that he is likely to be. If he always gets coffee at the same cart it’s quite easy to ‘accidentally’ bump into him and have a quick private chat. If you know a bar he goes to regularly you might like to meet a group of friends there for a drink. In either case you will just have a quick, superficial chat. Check how he is doing, and ask him if he’d like to do something non-committal. The more mutual friends you have the easier this is going to be. The trick is to not make a huge thing of it, re-establish contact and lay the groundwork for a future meeting.

The other method is the deliberate method. Drop him a text message or email letting him know that ’something’ reminded you of him the other day. If you have a particularly happy memory together you can probably use that: “I was in that park the other day – remember the one we had that picnic in? Anyway it just reminded me of you and I wondered what you’ve been up to?” Again, keep it casual and light, but make sure there is a question that he can answer there somewhere.

Once you have used either of these methods you will hopefully have re-established contact with your man, and from there you can go on to make that contact more and more personal until the point somewhere in the future where you are a couple again.

Winning back your ex-husband or ex-boyfriend is very doable! Get him back now. Check outWin Back Love: How To Get Back The Love Of Your Life, by Annalyn Caras.

When a relationship breaks up it is very common for one of the partners to realize that the feelings they had were much deeper than they realized and that they would be prepared to do just about anything to get back together again.

This can of course be difficult if certain things were said during the break up or if the relationship ended badly. It’s quite possible your ex will have cut off all communication with you and stopped going to the places you both frequented, just to avoid you. If they don’t want anything to do with you it’s very difficult to get communication going again, and you may even have to allow them their cooling off period to show that you respect their wishes for time apart.

But after you have given them a little space, you need to be able to let them know that you still care deeply for them and want to give things another go. How you go about getting them from not talking to you, to establishing communication is a delicate matter.

The simplest way is to simply call and ask them if there’s a time you can catch up. If they are not talking to you at all you can expect a pretty chilly response to that. So bear that in mind, and be prepared to approach them with a peace offering. You could start by saying you have a few things you feel you need to apologize for and ask if they would mind meeting for lunch.

If the direct approach fails you can employ a go-between. Be careful with this, because it can totally suck when you are caught between two ex-friends. You need to find a friend that both you and your partner trust, and you need to tell them how much you would like to get back together and how sincere you are. Ask them if they would mind having a quiet chat with your ex and seeing if there is any way you can make up your former mistakes. And leave it at that. Don’t bug your friend, don’t expect a call the next day and don’t be offended if they say they don’t want to get involved (in fact, you should make sure they understand they are under no obligation to get involved – you are asking a big favor here). You need to be completely honest about the fact your goal is to get back together. Don’t try and play it cool – the time for that is passed.

If that fails, write your thoughts down in a letter. Stay sincere and don’t let your letter get long winded. When it is done let it sit for 24 hours then read over it again and make sure it says exactly what you want it to. The thing with a letter is making sure it gets to the right person and gets opened. Hand deliver it, acknowledge any mistakes you may have made and any hurt you may have caused. Apologize and ask them to read the letter and let you know if there’s any way you can make it up to them.

When you are trying to re-establish contact with someone where a relationship has ended badly you have to be sincere and open yourself up for a rejection. Don’t constantly pester them, but rather give them some space and let them know you will be ready for them whenever they are prepared to give things another shot.

Talk to your ex now. If these techniques don’t work, don’t fret. Check out Win Back Love: How To Get Back The Love Of Your Life, by Annalyn Caras, for a complete step-by-step blueprint to get your ex back.

Hi folks,

Welcome to my blog. I hope you enjoy it and find it useful.

I’ll be using this space to answer frequently answered questions.

So let’s get to it.

What is Win Back Love?

Win Back Love is an ebook written by me, Annalyn Caras, to help couples:

1. Get back together. The primary objective of Win Back Love is to help readers get their ex back. If you have broken up with your true love (whether it is your husband, wife, boyfriend or girlfriend), the proven ideas and strategies in Win Back Love can help you get your ex back.

2. Once reunited, Win Back Love helps couples build a strong, harmonious relationship with bonds that cannot be broken. Be at peace with yourself and your partner. Love and be loved. Be soul mates. Although it requires effort, it feels effortless – because of the love you both share.

Who is Win Back Love for?

Win Back Love is intended for anyone who is on the verge of a breakup, or who has just broken up with their true love. That said, I get email daily for people who have now reunited with their ex and continue to read the book for the strategies to enrich and strengthen their relationship with their husband, wife, boyfriend or girlfriend.

Why should I read Win Back Love?

I recommend Win Back Love for three reasons.

1. Because people often act on emotion after a breakup and make crucial mistakes which actually push their ex further away from them. Even though their intentions are good, and the reasoning appears sound, these mistakes can make the chances of getting back together slim, or, in some cases, impossible. (sign up for the free Biggest Breakup Mistakes Newsletter athttp://www.winbacklove.com/).

2. Because Win Back Love provides a step-by-step blueprint to win back your love, get your ex back, and eliminate the problems that led to your initial breakup.

3. Because once you are together again, the ideas and strategies in Win Back Love will enable
you to share the strongest relationship possible as the beautiful bond between you continues to grow.

Readers of Win Back Love receive the Win Back Love Newsletter weekly with continued tips and strategies.

Find out how you can get your ex back at http://www.WinBackLove.com/